Releasing techniques helps to distress our system
• Various relaxation techniques can be practiced before sleep with the help of smoothing music. This helps to distress for all tensions gathered during the day and to have sound sleep.
• Periodical massage by others will also give immediate relief from the tension stored in the body and thus will create a balanced emotional state to carry out in pursuing the permanent solutions.
• Catharsis – it is okay to be irrational for few minutes in a day. After throwing all the garbage out, one can handle all the day activities in a rationale way. Catharsis in any form like shouting, beating the pillow or crying every day for 10 minutes helps to release all the stored up anger and unwanted energy.
• Conflicting desires and needs also can be an obstacle to change. This self-conflicting requirement will be a huge resistance to any positive change.
• For example, a person may have two needs; one to be a creative person and his second need may be to be socially accepted. Then these two needs will be in conflict and he can never achieve his goal of being a creative person.
In such cases we will need to help him/her with active listening, so as to facilitate his/her understanding of what each of these needs is actually creating in his life, so that he/she can choose what he/she wants to do. He/she has the right to chose security and social recognition over his/her freedom and happiness, if that is his/her choice.
One of the huge obstacles is to be caught in the chain of habit. We get locked into habits that become our familiar reality. We identify with this reality that we create and feel safe in even though it is painful. For many people familiar pain or suffering are preferable to unfamiliar happiness. Many would prefer to stay in the narrow confines of the familiar and known, rather than risk the freedom of the unknown. Improvement and change mean going beyond the known.
Also these habits can engage our energy patterns in ways that control our minds so that they mechanically fulfill themselves without our conscious support. For example, we reach for food, drink or a cigarette, turn on the TV, zap through the channels, pick up the phone and call someone, all mechanically without being conscious of what we are doing, and whether what we are doing is actually beneficial for us and what we really want to do. The mind loses its ability to control these unconscious movements, and then suffers from compulsive acts and thoughts.
Thus when working with people who are held back in their process by strong self defeating habits, in addition to analysis, we would do well to encourage them to:
i. Find a place where they can live for a time without having access to their habits.
ii. Participate with a group of people with the same problem.
iii. Develop their relationship with the Divine.